Do you believe that we are all made of different parts? After all, not everyone is all bad or all good. Human beings have a combination of helpful and harmful amounts of themselves. Unfortunately, trauma has a way of bringing out the worst in us. INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS (IFS) is a type of therapy that helps you discover who you are and bring all of these parts together. The three main parts include: Exiles, Managers and Firefighters.
Unfortunately, when two people have a traumatic history in a relationship, it can create something called “trauma bonding.” It can even happen in your relationships with family members or friends. It’s easy for abusers to shift the perspective of their victims, often using gaslighting techniques. They can get you to change the way you view what happened, or what continues to happen. Instead of recognizing that you’re the victim, they can end up making you feel like you’re the one to blame.
The emotional scars that you are carrying from relationship trauma can be hard to heal from. If you have been betrayed once, you are also expecting future betrayals. You may run away from relationships with people who care about you for fear of getting hurt again. But it is important to know that you can heal no matter how long it takes. That not everyone in the world is bad for you.
Can trauma occur if something terrible has happened to someone else? This is called vicarious trauma. If you see or hear stories of people going through tragedies it can cause a different perspective of the world you once thought was safe. You feel various emotions, from anxiety to guilt, hopelessness, or numbness. Serving Boulder, Longmont, Denver.
Betrayal trauma is the emotional impact of your experience after your trust or well-being is violated. It is most often experienced in attachment relationships, like caregivers and children, or in romantic partnerships. You have to continue to rely on the betrayer for support, care, shelter, or other basic needs. These experiences of betrayal can be so traumatic that you feel you will never want to trust anyone again.
The concept of generational trauma is built upon the reality that trauma sets into motion certain genetic processes. If, for example, your grandparent endured trauma, it's quite possible that you will feel the impact. You may feel symptoms. You may inherit coping mechanisms. The possibilities appear to be endless. Therefore, the impacts are equally endless. How can we manage such a covert legacy?
What’s a trauma bond? This sort of connection is actually a relationship shaped by unreliable, inconsistent reinforcement patterns. Promises are broken. Calm periods don't last. ”Out-of-nowhere” intensity and negativity always follow. Everything seems complicated and erratic. Anxiety is an integral part of your interactions (or lack thereof).
When you have been through trauma, it has a real impact on your brain. Sometimes you feel it intensely and often. Overtimes, you may try to go about your life and sense something more subtle is hindering you. But the encouraging thing? Science tells us that your brain needn’t stay stuck in a traumatized state. Research make it clear that your brain, even after the worst experiences can rebound.
Trauma treatment recovery can be so tough because we fear being so broken by our painful experience that we can’t move on. Yet, this fear actually gets in our way. Anxiety about falling apart can become a preoccupation. It can impede our recovery as we rush to be “okay” attempting to skip crucial steps to wholeness and wellbeing. Serving Boulder, Longmont, Denver...
